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givingup

There was a day in my life that I almost gave up. I want­ed to quit my job, I want­ed to leave our home and live else­where, I want­ed to spend every­thing I saved up, I want­ed to quit my rela­tion­ship with my friends and be iso­lat­ed for three rea­sons:

  1. I felt like being betrayed because my co-work­ers whom I have served talked mali­cious­ly behind me.
  2. I didn’t get the pro­mo­tion that my man­ag­er promised to me even I received a high­er rat­ing than any­one else but one of my col­leagues was able to get it.
  3. I am bro­ken-heart­ed.

And all of them hap­pened with­in the same year! Don’t get me wrong about here, I have already moved on from these things, I am only pleased to share it with you to serve as an inspi­ra­tion.

How does it feel when you didn’t get what you want to achieve? For me it’s awful! I spent two years invest­ing all my life to my job, it was the time when I don’t have time to go to church because I have to work dur­ing week­ends! You know what it hurts? There was no pro­mo­tion.

Anoth­er thing was, I felt some of my col­leagues start­ed to dis­tance them­selves from me. I’m clue­less. Did I say any­thing that hurt them? Or I am too aggres­sive towards work? Or maybe I am too com­pet­i­tive? Oh well, I rest my case.

It was painful to see that I am not grow­ing. I didn’t get the pro­mo­tion, I was dumped by the woman I’m court­ing that time, I couldn’t ask for more! I want­ed to quit my job and I want­ed to iso­late myself!

But here’s one thing I real­ized:

My faith and char­ac­ter were being test­ed dur­ing those moments of my life.

I kept blam­ing Satan and his evil com­pan­ions by attack­ing me, by blam­ing him that he was the one who gave me those dif­fi­cul­ties in life when in fact God was the one who allowed it. Yes, you read it right. GOD allowed it.

But why? God is good, why He will allow those things to hap­pen in a life of a believ­er? It doesn’t make sense to me at that time. But I remem­ber Job, one of the most faith­ful man I know in the Bible. God pros­pered him but one day while Satan was in heav­en, God said to him “Have you con­sid­er my ser­vant Job? He is faith­ful to me.”, Satan replied, “He is only faith­ful because your hand was upon him, you pros­pered him in every­thing and your angels are pro­tect­ing him, lest you remove your hand and angels on him, he will curse you!”. Then God said, “Alright I will, but don’t touch him and take his life away”.

Job suf­fered. Imag­ine in just a day, all his prop­er­ties were burned in the fire. His daugh­ters and sons died. All that he has once was gone. But despite that, Job did not sin against God.

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The Test

Like Job, I wasn’t aware that dur­ing those times, God allowed it to hap­pen to test my faith and reveal what was real­ly in my heart.

The moment I didn’t get the pro­mo­tion, God want­ed for me to see how I am hun­gry for a posi­tion. God want­ed me to learn to per­se­vere and con­tin­ue to serve with­out expect­ing a reward.

The moment I didn’t get the “sweet yes” from the woman I am court­ing that time and how I was frus­trat­ed because I have plans of get­ting mar­ried by the age of 27, God want­ed me to learn that His plans are bet­ter than my plans. He want­ed me to see my flaws, He want­ed me to over­come my jeal­ous­ness. He want­ed me to learn to be true to my words and promis­es, how is it to be the gen­tle­man, a real man. I have learned to wait and let God do the rest because you can’t get any­thing by hur­ry­ing up.

The moment I felt like that I am not grow­ing, oh boy I was wrong, I didn’t grow dur­ing the times when every­thing is good, I grow when I am strug­gling and I have over­come it.

The Life of a plant

Some­how, the life of human and plants some­how relat­ed to each oth­er. Have you tried to observe how plants and trees thrive?. When it was a seed, its sprouts are strug­gling under­neath the ground. It want­ed to see what’s up there! The sprout might say, “I am so excit­ed to see how it is beau­ti­ful up there! How the heat and light of the sun will touch my skin!, but I must first thrive and over­come this dark­ness and cold­ness that sur­rounds me”.

But all of the trees that amazed me was the bam­boo tree. Why? It was ugly and thin. It amazed me because it takes a long time for it to sprout. The process of grow­ing a bam­boo tree may take years but you know what? Dur­ing the years that a bam­boo seed is grow­ing under­neath the ground, the bam­boo grows its roots first. After its roots were ful­ly grown, it will sprout out of the ground and grow strong­ly and tremen­dous­ly, bam­boo trees won’t be uproot­ed, no mat­ter how the storm will be.

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Our life is like the life of a plant. Our strug­gles is a sign that we are grow­ing. The moment we feel that we are not grow­ing because of the cir­cum­stances hap­pen­ing in our lives, it is the time our char­ac­ter is grow­ing, the moment we are strug­gling, the is the time we are root­ing, it is the time when God is mold­ing us and prepar­ing us for the next assign­ment He has for us.

Quot­ing from Michael John Bobak, “All progress takes place out of the com­fort zone.”

When you see your friends get­ting pro­mot­ed, get­ting mar­ried, becom­ing suc­cess­ful, don’t com­pete with them as you will be frus­trat­ed. Instead, com­pete with your­self. Just wait for your time to come and when that time comes, soar high! No one can stop you. Nev­er regret a day in your life, because it has a pur­pose.

The moment you are tempt­ed to give up, remem­ber why you start­ed.




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