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In the spring of the year,when kings nor­mal­ly go out to war, David sent Joab and the Israelite army to fight the Ammonites. They destroyed the Ammonite army and laid siege to the city of Rab­bah. How­ev­er, David stayed behind in Jerusalem.

Late one after­noon, after his mid­day rest, David got out of bed and was walk­ing on the roof of the palace. As he looked out over the city, he noticed a woman who was very beau­ti­ful tak­ing a bath. He sent some­one to find out who she was, and he was told, “She is Bathshe­ba, the daugh­ter of Eliam and the wife of Uri­ah the Hit­tite.” Then David sent mes­sen­gers to get her; and when she came to the palace, he slept with her.”

- 2 Samuel 11:1–4

I was read­ing a book ear­li­er about spir­i­tu­al dis­ci­plines, it tack­les about how spir­i­tu­al dis­ci­plines can make a dif­fer­ence to a Chris­t­ian in a rot­ten world. And then, I remem­ber the sto­ry of David, the great­est King that Israel had, a man after God’s own heart — from how he became a king and what made his king­dom to decline.

Why King David fall? How it was start­ed? Like any oth­er sto­ries in the bible, a man’s suc­cess usu­al­ly ends when they for­got that there is a God in their life. David’s for­get­ful­ness of God made his king­dom to fall from the hands of his own son Absa­lom. But how David for­get God when he is a man after His own heart? Keep read­ing so you will know.

Dur­ing the time of King David, there was a nev­er end­ing war and con­flicts on their neigh­bor­ing coun­tries. These nations gath­er togeth­er with one pur­pose — to destroy Israel. In that peri­od, it was nor­mal for a king to go bat­tle with his war­riors to defend his coun­try and his peo­ple, to con­quer new ter­ri­to­ries and to kill oth­er kings. But it was said in the scrip­tures, David let his gen­er­als and armies fight the Ammonites — leav­ing David relaxed, prob­a­bly wan­der­ing around his palace and extreme­ly bored.

At that day, David was­n’t woke up with the inten­tions in his mind to sin but that day he sinned. One late after­noon, while he was walk­ing on the roof of the palace, he saw a very beau­ti­ful woman who was bathing with­out mod­esty. Why with­out mod­esty? Because she could go to a pri­vate place where no one can see her bathing or maybe she could dress an appro­pri­ate wear for bathing.

David have been cap­ti­vat­ed to the beau­ty of this woman named Bathshe­ba. David did not stare once but he stared for a while made him to sin and for­get God. His lust-glazed eyes cloud the image of God, thus he call his mes­sen­gers to get her quick and David slept or sexed with her that night. That was only the begin­ning, David ratio­nal­ize the sin did and attempt­ed to ask Uri­ah his faith­ful war­rior to go home and sleep with his wife but Uri­ah did­n’t.

And so, David became a cal­cu­lat­ing liar, that he plot­ted Uri­ah’s death to cov­er what he did with Bat­she­ba. And after that, the events were so fast, David’s first son with Bat­she­ba died, his beau­ti­ful daugh­ter Tamar was raped, his son Absa­lom killed Ammon because he raped his sis­ter, then Absa­lom led a rebel­lion against him that made his king­dom to fall. By just com­mit­ting an adul­tery, he almost dis­obey the ten com­mand­ments of God.

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I see three points that we can learn from David’s sto­ry:

1.David’s relax­ation.

David was relaxed, he nev­er thought that his relax­ation will extend to his moral life. It hap­pens, some­times when we are relaxed, it is hard to main­tain an inner dis­ci­pline. The les­son here it’s just when we think we are safe, when we are don’t need to guard our hearts, when we think we will nev­er com­pro­mise and we don’t need to improve our inner dis­ci­pline of integri­ty and puri­ty, that’s when the temp­ta­tion will come!.

Temp­ta­tion will try to take con­trol over us, and if it wins, it make us to fix­ate on the sin and at that moment God dis­ap­pears from us. I like the descrip­tion of Diet­rich Bon­ho­ef­fer to temp­ta­tion, he said “Satan does not here fill us with hatred of God, but with for­get­ful­ness of God. And now his false hood is added to this proof of strength. The lust thus aroused envelops the mind and will of man in deep­est dark­ness. The pow­ers of clear dis­crim­i­na­tion and of deci­sion are tak­en from us.”

It’s when we are in the grip of lust, God dis­ap­pears from us.

2.David’s ratio­nal­iza­tion of his sin.

To define ratio­nal­ize, accord­ing to it is attempt to explain or jus­ti­fy (one’s own or anoth­er’s behav­ior or atti­tude) with log­i­cal, plau­si­ble rea­sons, even if these are not true or appro­pri­ate.

Not long after that, David slept with Bat­she­ba and after know­ing that she was preg­nant, his behav­ior sud­den­ly change and made him to be a cal­cu­lat­ing liar and a mas­ter-mind behind Uri­ah’s death.

In today’s gen­er­a­tion, sen­su­al images, adul­tery and for­ni­ca­tion is already a norm. You can’t watch movies nowa­days with­out kiss­ing scenes, sex­u­al­ly explic­it scenes and oth­er immoral prac­tices. Why because we Chris­tians are afraid to stand out, we are afraid to be reject­ed and con­demn by oth­er peo­ple as reli­gious freaks.

How ratio­nal­iza­tion occurs? It hap­pens when we are defend­ing the sin or attempt­ing to sug­ar coat it.

It is okay for him to tell oth­ers to be gay, there’s noth­ing wrong about it!, it’s his choice any­way”. — God con­demns homo­sex­u­al­i­ty as a sin, why instead encour­age the per­son to find his iden­ti­ty on God not on what oth­ers think of him!. Besides, there is only female and male, and more than that is evil!

God’s will for me is to be hap­py, he would not deny me any­thing which is essen­tial to my hap­pi­ness”. — God is not a genie who will adjust to you.

God is love, and I love this per­son so I think God will under­stand me if I will give up myself to him even for one night”. — it is lust not love!

It is okay to watch movies with sex­u­al­ly explic­it con­tent as long you will not give in to temp­ta­tion”. — is that even pos­si­ble?

A Chris­t­ian who ratio­nal­izes a sin could even say “By grace we have been saved, I think God will not even care if I sin again because he said I am clean already, don’t become so judg­men­tal as you are already judg­ing me!.” - a Chris­t­ian who can­not accept the truth, and only wants to hear what he or she wants to hear from oth­ers and only do what oth­ers want so that he or she can please oth­er peo­ple.

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3.David’s decline.

That’s when David became a cal­cu­lat­ing liar. He allowed adul­tery to take con­trol of him and so oth­er sins fol­lowed.

  • He broke the 10th com­mand­ment of God that led him to com­mit adul­tery.
  • He steal his neigh­bor’s wife thus he broke the 8th com­mand­ment and broke 6th com­mand­ment as well.
  • He broke the 9th com­mand­ment by bear­ing false wit­ness against his broth­er.

And then his decline hap­pened so fast:

  • David’s first son with Bat­she­ba died.
  • his beau­ti­ful daugh­ter Tamar was raped by Ammon.
  • his son Absa­lom killed Ammon because he raped his sis­ter,
  • then Absa­lom led a rebel­lion against him that made his king­dom to fall.

This made me to real­ize that main­tain­ing spir­i­tu­al dis­ci­plines is impor­tant for a Chris­t­ian life. I myself, I admit that I’m strug­gling with the area of lust so I con­tin­ue fight­ing it with the help of God. There was also a time when I lie because I know what I did was wrong, and so my behav­ior changed caused me to bear false wit­ness to oth­er peo­ple, caus­ing me to twist what is true. This what makes a Chris­t­ian life so excit­ing. Nev­er­the­less, Apos­tle Paul encour­age us to stay in faith no mat­ter how hard the bat­tle is. In Acts 14:22 he said  “We must go through many hard­ships to enter the king­dom of God”.

By hav­ing an account­abil­i­ty group, dai­ly prayer and med­i­tat­ing on scrip­tures, train­ing of our minds, and putting hedges around our lives will help us to avoid what hap­pened to King David. Actu­al­ly while I am writ­ing this blog entry, I am preach­ing this to myself as well and it hit me hard!

Men it is also good les­son for us. We must refrain from invit­ing woman to ver­bal inti­ma­cy or pour­ing out our trou­bles and all of the details of our life and bare our hearts to them — you can only do that to your spouse (for mar­ried men). Because talk­ing about per­son­al mat­ters, and prob­lems can fill anoth­er’s need for inti­ma­cy and will awak­en a desire for more and many affairs just began this way. As men guard we should guard our heart and guard our mouth — stop shar­ing what is unnec­es­sary!

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