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Yes­ter­day, we just had our quar­ter­ly meet­ing in the orga­ni­za­tion I chose to coop­er­ate with, to lead with and to serve with.

We have been serv­ing our co-employ­ees for their holis­tic devel­op­ment in terms of phys­i­cal well-being, and finan­cial well-being.

I chose to be part of the finan­cial well­ness team because I believe most peo­ple quit because of finan­cial prob­lems rather than stress prob­lems, and finan­cial lit­er­a­cy is clos­er to my heart since I am too an advo­cate of it.

I just want­ed to share a les­son I’ve learned yes­ter­day that I hope it will help you some­how in your quest for a bet­ter life.

Pick me! Pick me! Pick me!”, or I’d rather say “Choose me! Choose me! Choose me!”

Most of us are trained to wait for some­one to choose us or pick us up. In the office, employ­ees often wait for some­one to make them in-charge or before they speak up. Writ­ers often wait to be pick by agents or pub­lish­ers before they pub­lish their work. Entre­pre­neurs often wait for a ven­ture cap­i­tal­ist or investors.

I remem­ber one Sun­day after­noon when I was preach­ing, to ensure kids par­tic­i­pa­tion, I often pick a kid to recite the answer and share it with the whole class, then he or she will get a prize.

Since most kids are par­tic­i­pa­tive, I was hav­ing dif­fi­cul­ty who I am going to pick, and there was a young boy vol­un­tar­i­ly stand up and pick him­self to answer the ques­tion.

Note: He pick him­self, I did­n’t pick him.

Such a won­der­ful pic­ture of courage, and hav­ing no fear to fail. He does­n’t care whether he will answer it cor­rect­ly or not, the impor­tant for him that moment is to speak out.

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True enough, that chil­dren, if trained prop­er­ly, imag­ine how impact­ful are they when they become adults.

Sad­ly, most of us are trained to doubt our­selves. The fear of being reject­ed bound us in the tyran­ny of being picked and there­fore it made us not to speak out, not to take risks and not to face our fears.

We have will­ing­ly sub­mit­ted our­selves under the lead­er­ship of a cru­el and oppres­sive leader that lives with­in us.

We live in a world with exces­sive bureau­cra­cy or adher­ence to rules and for­mal­i­ties, espe­cial­ly in the cor­po­rate world, where­as one of the rea­sons why employ­ees quit because they can’t decide for them­selves, they can’t start projects on their own, they can’t use their cre­ativ­i­ty to move for­ward because of the lead­ers who pos­sessed the red tape atti­tude.

Com­ply, com­ply, com­ply or else you will fire.

I admit as a rank-and-file employ­ee, I find that bureau­cra­cy is oppres­sive in so many ways. If you are an employ­ee, you don’t decide, the upper man­age­ment decides. This could exist in many orga­ni­za­tions but not all and it such a bless­ing if you are work­ing with a com­pa­ny pre­vent­ing the red tape.

I find it one of the rea­sons why most peo­ple if they have the resources, often choose to take the path of entre­pre­neur­ship which I will take, once I am ready.

As Seth Godin says in his book Poke The Box, “Reject the tyran­ny of being picked. Pick your­self”.

He is right:

  • Don’t wait for per­mis­sion from oth­ers before you start achiev­ing your dreams.
  • Don’t wait for oth­ers to val­i­date your work to be able to con­tin­ue.
  • Choose your­self, encour­age your­self because in the end when every­thing else fails, no one will be there to cheer you up, it’s only you.
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To con­tin­ue the sto­ry, we start­ed our meet­ing with a game. The game will encour­age every­one to move and meet a new friend (at least 5) and ask a ques­tion from the giv­en list of ques­tions to ask and one must give a dif­fer­ent ques­tion to each per­son they meet, repeat­ing the same ques­tion is not allowed.

I reluc­tant­ly par­tic­i­pat­ed but because I felt I must, I was able to com­plete it first and imme­di­ate­ly went in the front so as to avoid hav­ing the same per­son asked by a dif­fer­ent per­son with the same ques­tion I asked.

I won! Haha. I bet you get the idea now. It’s always worth it to fin­ish first, to come ear­ly because ear­ly birds often gave the chance to speak up, while late­com­ers, since they are late, often the last to serve and often did­n’t have a chance to speak up.

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