Have you ever felt so hopeful whenever the year ends and another year is about to start? You start to wonder what are the things you want to achieve next year, listing it down and you start even sharing it with your friends and loved ones.
Well, that’s what I feel right now. There is no greater joy than the feeling of excitement whenever I achieved or fulfilled the things I listed down at the start of the year. But also, it can accompany with regret and frustrations as you go back to your list and most of them are not fulfilled — if you are a goal-oriented person like me!
Goals excite me, unfulfilled goals make me feel frustrated. Beginning of this year, 2018, I listed down 11 faith goals. To emphasize, 11 ambitious and audacious faith goals. And you know what? Only 3 of them were fulfilled, 3 of them partially-fulfilled, 1 of them, I already gave up the idea of having or being it, and the rest remains unfulfilled.
Why, Dhenn? Last year most of your goals fulfilled, but this year seems quite a busy year, but most of your goals remain unfulfilled?
Well, to tell you the reason: I’m distracted. I’m distracted by the good things that will have a good impact on my life.
You see, some distractions are good, some are not. Lately, I have been receiving emails again from marketers sending me articles that distractions are bad for you, distractions are evil, distractions are an unnecessary part of life and we need to get rid of it. But I DISAGREE.
I disagree because not all distractions are created equal. Distractions are necessary for life because:
1. Some distractions teach you to be spontaneous and enjoy life.
Being so focused on your goals somehow creates anxiety. Everything is planned accordingly sometimes makes life harder than easy right? I remember when I was in my undergraduate degree, my mind was so focused on finishing my course within a 4 year period. Did I enjoy it? Did I learn a lot? Honestly speaking, NO. I didn’t learn a lot when I was in college. I was so focused on schooling and in my grades that I forget to enjoy learning.
Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, “I don’t let schooling prevents my education.”
Schooling is aiming for the high grades, for the distinction and honorary awards. Education is learning, releasing your creativity, taking risks.
This year has never been that spontaneous than the previous years I had. I went back to school to pursue Graduate Studies because surprisingly, I have been admitted to the Masters Program at the University of the Philippines in the middle of the year.
With that, I wasn’t able to finish 12 books, only a half. I wasn’t able to give 12 talks because I reject some and I delivered 3 talks only for this year and I wasn’t able to start writing my 2nd book because of it.
But that’s okay. I enjoy studying now than before. It encourages me to step out of my comfort zone and it gave me a new dream — a dream of teaching to University someday.
2. Some distractions teach you a lesson.
Honestly, I have been into two heartbreaks this year. The pain of rejection — an area that God still wanted me to work into. An area that God uses to build up my confidence and faith in Him, an area where He usually emphasizing that I am not rejected, I am accepted and He has greater plans for me.
These are also a good distraction. One of the reasons why I was able to achieve some hairy audacious goals I have before is that; rejection plays a major role in it. Rejection pulls me so hard that it pushes me hard as well to be better, to strive for more and to become the person God called me to be.
3. Some distractions are life-changing.
If you have been following me recently in my social media accounts, I already gave up the idea of getting married. The dream of building a family one day. All these dreams, I knelt down before the Lord, surrendered to Him and somehow I buried it 10 ft below the ground. I don’t want any hint of it, I don’t want to desire it anymore. I even asked God to remove this desire from me if it is not His will for me.
But God seems has another plan for me. He exhausted everything of my gifts and talents to serve His people. He let me use and give it to the ministry where I served, He let me used it in the public places, He leveled up my leadership and communication skills and after all of those exhausting months and years, God made me realize that those are distractions.
Distractions that changes my life. Distractions that transformed me into becoming more of the person He has called me. Distractions that molded me to become the right person.
After those distractions that I believe God gave to me, my frustrations that my small group won’t survive, we grew into 6 to 8 already just this year.
Another one that gives me hope and inspires me that I believe God has already given to me, well I can’t share it for now. Maybe sooner or next year. I still don’t know and I don’t want to fill my hopes in it, I just want to remain faithful and let God do the rest.
Sometimes distractions are necessary not because it drifts us away from our purpose, but sometimes it reminds us that we cannot do anything with our own power and ability. Life is meant to enjoy and to be purposeful at the same time. God allows some distractions because He wants us to know that His plans and goals are better than ours.
While I am not encouraging you to be distracted at all, but some distractions somehow direct us to where we should be going instead of just going with the flow isn’t it? In all you do, remain purposeful, remain hopeful, be focused but don’t forget that there will be some distractions.
How about you? What are the distractions that you experienced this year? Did they change your life for the better or worse?
As the year ends, start to reminisce everything you experienced and achieve this year. And ask yourself, did it help me to become a better person? Did it increase my faith and confidence in God?
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