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The end of the semester is just around the corner again. I’ve been hearing graduation processional march songs being played all over again in my place since we live near a school.

As I lis­ten to the song, I remem­ber the last time I walked on the stage to get my diplo­ma just to give it to my mom who was stand­ing there wait­ing for me.

I was teary-eyed as we threw our hats off to the sky because I sur­vived col­lege. I was excit­ed because I made it!

But here’s the real­i­ty: it’s just a sea­son you should max­i­mize. If you are about to enter col­lege, make sure that you get what you real­ly want­ed to become in life.

If you are a col­lege and will be grad­u­at­ing this April, make sure to have the job you real­ly want.

Because your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be tru­ly sat­is­fied is to do what you believe is great work as Steve Job once said.

To tell you hon­est­ly, I grad­u­at­ed clue­less of what I want­ed to become after school. I took up a degree in Infor­ma­tion Tech­nol­o­gy not because I want it, but because it was in-demand and will always be even though I don’t real­ly like cod­ing stuff and all sorts of it but it made me become a bet­ter prob­lem-solver.

I faced so many crises in life as I did not become sat­is­fied with my career dur­ing my ear­ly 20’s. Now I am in my late 20-ish, I can final­ly say that I become more sat­is­fied than ever.

Are you clue­less about what you are going to do after grad­u­a­tion? Here are the 5 rules you might want to fol­low after your grad­u­a­tion.

1. Go after the things that you “real­ly” want.

There was one time when one of my friends craved for piz­za. It was a per­fect time since that day was the “Inter­na­tion­al Piz­za Day” and Yel­low Cab was offer­ing unlim­it­ed Piz­za dur­ing that night only.

When he saw the line of peo­ple in Yel­low Cab hav­ing the same crav­ings as he, he backed out. He said that the line was too long. We end up with noth­ing.

This is where I real­ized that there are two kinds of peo­ple in the world:

  • There are peo­ple who only sees what they want and get it what­ev­er it takes.
  • The are peo­ple who only see the things that pre­vent­ing them from get­ting what they want.

The peo­ple who were falling in line only cares about the piz­za. It does­n’t mat­ter how long or what time they will be able to eat the unlim­it­ed piz­za, all they just want is that piz­za!

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My friend on the oth­er hand only saw the line.

Choose wise­ly what kind of per­son you want­ed to become.

2. Some­times you are the prob­lem.

Dur­ing the 18th cen­tu­ry, there was a phe­nom­e­non that moth­ers who gave birth in the after­noon often died after they gave birth to their child.

Only one man noticed that the doc­tors did­n’t wash their hands after lunch. No one believed him. It took 35 years for them to final­ly real­ized that not wash­ing their hands was the cause. From there the phe­nom­e­non of dying moth­ers after giv­ing birth in the after­noon ceased.

See to it that some­times you are the prob­lem.

3. Work for peo­ple and take care of them.

Since I am a techy per­son, I rarely work for peo­ple. I was think­ing that I was hired to solve a prob­lem. It was not on my agen­da to help peo­ple.

But then dur­ing my 4th year as a tech­ni­cal con­sul­tant, I real­ized that I can­not get what I want by only think­ing about myself. And so I learned to help my col­leagues to make their mun­dane tasks easy by devel­op­ing tools that can auto­mate it, and that’s the time I received more respon­si­bil­i­ties and have been pro­mot­ed.

You need to be real­ly good at help­ing oth­er peo­ple on your front, on your back, on your left, and on your right. You will only get all you want in life if you help enough oth­er peo­ple get what they want. 

4. Lis­ten intent­ly and prac­tice being the last to speak.

Have you met some­one who does­n’t allow you to fin­ish what you are say­ing?

How about some­one who let you fin­ish but does­n’t lis­ten to you? He only cares about his opin­ion.

That’s the worst trait you can ever have. I’ve met many peo­ple who do that. You can often see them in meet­ings or mee­tups.

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My num­ber 1 strength is Har­mo­ny. It real­ly defines my intro­vert­ed nature. I don’t real­ly like exchang­ing argu­ments and opin­ions.

In meet­ings, I pre­ferred to be the last to speak as it allows me to lis­ten to oth­er peo­ple are say­ing and learn from them.

When I say lis­ten intent­ly, I mean you must lis­ten to them, process what you’ve heard and learned from it. Some peo­ple may appear lis­ten­ing but in real­i­ty, they don’t, they just think­ing and mem­o­riz­ing what will they say, and that’s ter­ri­ble.

And last­ly,

5. Prac­tice humil­i­ty.

For sure, the more you become suc­cess­ful achiev­ing your goals, the more influ­ence you can have.

There will be a time peo­ple will respect you because of your author­i­ty or posi­tion. But the more you rise, the more it’s tempt­ing to not go back where you came from, and that’s when peo­ple abuse their pow­er and the peo­ple who helped them to rise in the ranks.

To prac­tice humil­i­ty is to start think­ing that you don’t deserve all the things you achieve in life. God gave it to you to become a good exam­ple and help oth­er peo­ple, any­time he can take it away from you if He wants.

Humil­i­ty is what sep­a­rates great lead­ers from mediocre lead­ers.

While there are no per­fect rules, but I assure you fol­low­ing these rules will guar­an­tee you to become suc­cess­ful in your next sea­son in life.

Are you ready? Con­grat­u­la­tions in advance!

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I blog about my dis­cov­er­ies and learn­ings with per­son­al devel­op­ment, blog­ging, writ­ing, pub­lic speak­ing, and pub­lish­ing. I am a Jesus fol­low­er. Each month, I send out a newslet­ter with free tips on those top­ics.

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