I don’t usually set goals because for many reasons. I used to dream of what my future will look like. Will I be successful? Will I ever have a family on my own or should I stay single?
Last year the book Strengths Finder 2.0 by Tom Rath enabled be to discover my top five strengths and not surprisingly, I had the “Futuristic” at the top 1.
I loved to dream about the future. It excites me how the world would look like for the coming years in an optimistic view. But nothing can be more exciting than dreaming about my own future.
I’d dream of becoming a writer, author, and a motivational speaker, then life would drift by.
What now? Where did it all go?
Nothing could even more painful than to see life in a way that it is opposing your dreams make you to the question if God’s willing to give this dream I have.
I was alive, but I wanted the freedom to do the things I love to do and make a difference. I have a job, my dream job, but it is only a means to an end, I realize that it wasn’t really the work I was meant to do.
I know, I was meant to do something, bigger than me. I have goals, I called them faith goals but I realize they are mediocre goals, they are too general, they can’t give the life I wanted, it had to change.
I needed a life plan.
I learned from Daniel Harkavy and Michael Hyatt’s book Living Forward that a life plan is not a life insurance plan, an investment plan or a memorial plan. It is a set of goals that will enable you to have more control of your life than other matters will control it.
Why we don’t goals?
Many people don’t set goals.
I admit. I don’t set too when I was in my early 20’s. I know people who were obsessive collecting Starbucks and CBTL Planners and sort of but they don’t really have plans at all. It’s frustrating to see because I really want an expensive planner so I will always have to look on it. Not to collect it to make people wow, you can afford that thing!
When it comes to setting goals, many of us paralyzed. Yes, we have dreams. But usually, we don’t have plans to achieve it.
As the year ends, sure, I will be dreaming again for the next year. But why we don’t set goals?
- Fear of uncertainty.
- We don’t know where we are heading.
These are my reasons. I don’t know about you. I fear uncertainty. What if this plan didn’t work out?
I don’t know where I will be going. What I wanted to become? I am at the crossroads of choosing my job or choosing what I really meant to do.
I am lazy. Life goes on. Life is unfair. God has a plan for my life, why should I set goals?
Okay, I understand. God’s plan was never the same as ours.
But don’t you think God will be pleased if you leave everything to Him? Sure, he planned out everything carefully since the beginning but don’t you think He will be happy if you are not happy with your life right now?
God gave us freewill to decide for ourselves and that’s the beauty of His grace.
How to succeed in setting goals
Michael Hyatt is one of the virtual mentors I am following since this year after reading his book Living Forward.
In setting goals, he mentioned in the book that succeeding in goals you will need:
I can share with you three things:
- Acknowledge the drift.
“One of the best questions you can ask when something negative happens is this: What does this experience make possible.”- Michael Hyatt
Sure, everything happened for a reason and for a purpose. Drifting usually happens because we allow them. We don’t have plans so we become passive.
Acknowledging the drift helps us to live forward and allows us to take ownership of everything happened to us.
“In life, you often get what you expect.” — Michael Hyatt
What do you want to be? Set vivid goals that you can envision yourself becoming one.
- Commit to the Plan.
Many of us set goals. We are enthusiastic at it while we were doing it. But often we just leave it there at our desk waiting for us.
The reason why plans fail is because we don’t commit to it. We don’t go back to it to see how the things are progressing and what are the things we need to change.
Sure you have faith goals, whatever you call it. I have too.
But doesn’t mean that it can be done by pure faith. I have a Christian friend who loves to mention the words, “by faith”. He doesn’t have a plan he said he was living by faith.
But sometimes living by faith becomes an excuse for us to become passive. For me, it’s foolishness.
Getting the Life You Always Want
It was January 2013, when I finally learned to write down some goals. I was fearful and doubtful about it, but I did it anyway.
Some of these goals were;
- Write a book.
- Start an online business that can replace my full-time job in the corporate.
- Get married.
- Be a full-time missionary. (If God’s willing)
- Become a motivational speaker.
These goals are bigger than me, it scares me. But it makes my heart to beat faster as I’m excited about it.
The target for these goals is on 2020. But I already achieved the first two. I don’t exceed from any of them as I was only putting little effort on each of them for the past few years but will definitely work hard for them in the coming years.
How was I able to achieve them?
I just wrote them down. The day I wrote them down was the day I believed this will change my life for the better. I wanted to live a life better than good.
J.P morgan was right on what he said, “The first step going to somewhere is to decide that you are not going to stay the same where you are.”
What does this mean for you?
Probably you are asking yourself where you are right now at this moment.
This is the perfect time for you to write them down!
Acknowledge where you are right now, that you are drifting away, that you needed a plan. Have the clarity of what you wanted to become or where you will going to and finally, commit your life to it.
Sharing with you one of my favorite life verse:
“Write the vision; make it plain on tablets, so he may run who reads it.” — Habbakuk 2:2
Change the story of your life. Start it next year and live an intentional life.
And once you’ve done with it answer this question in the comments:
What are the goals you’ve written down and what you are going to do to achieve them?
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