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Pride is hav­ing a feel­ing that you are more impor­tant or you think you are bet­ter than oth­ers. Some peo­ple are not aware of them­selves being pride­ful at times because they are busy check­ing oth­ers that they for­get to have them­selves check.

While we are all liv­ing in a fall­en world and all of us are imper­fect, we are all vul­ner­a­ble to pride. I believe one of the first gifts of the Holy Spir­it gave to each per­son who recent­ly sur­ren­dered his or her life to Christ is no oth­er than “peace”. If you can’t find peace, you feel oppressed or your prayers are not answered, search for God’s will but first look for pride. Yes pride, because pride above all blocks mir­a­cles.

There are times I fail to look at it when lead­ing peo­ple. When a per­son has giv­en the author­i­ty to exe­cute, admin­is­ter, and lead peo­ple, I have observed that some lead­ers have the ten­den­cy to fight for uni­for­mi­ty than uni­ty.

I have learned that uni­ty is accept­ing the dif­fer­ences of the peo­ple I am lead­ing in terms of back­ground, beliefs, per­spec­tive and opin­ion, and use them as an advan­tage to work as a team and not enforc­ing what you want for the per­son to do even it is not aligned to his or her val­ues or what he or she wants to do.

Some lead­ers think that if one mem­ber of his team oppos­ing his ideas and goals could be divi­sive. No! It’s an advan­tage for a leader when some­one speaks out his or her mind because it will strike a bal­ance to the team.

Because when you force them to do what you want and threat­ened them — you are enforc­ing your­self to them and not giv­ing them an oppor­tu­ni­ty to grow — that’s uni­for­mi­ty, sac­ri­fic­ing uni­ty for the sake of uni­for­mi­ty is a big No-no for me.

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But how can we check for the man­i­fes­ta­tions of pride to our­selves?. Here’s what I have learned so far:

1. Spir­i­tu­al Stress

A per­son can be in a spir­i­tu­al stress if he or she came to the point of com­par­ing his or her min­istry achieve­ments to oth­ers. Don’t get me wrong about here, it is always bet­ter to check our inner motives. Why do we brag this accom­plish­ment to oth­ers? Some­times spir­i­tu­al stress caus­es anx­i­ety because a per­son is seek­ing self- admi­ra­tion and self-glo­ry for the things he did for God that leads to oth­er man­i­fes­ta­tions.

2. Mis­trust

If a leader does­n’t have trust to his or her team mem­bers, he or she will have the ten­den­cy to do all the things that oth­er mem­bers can do bet­ter than him. In this way, the per­son may be seek­ing admi­ra­tion from oth­ers and would like to take cred­it for what he has done.

When you don’t trust oth­ers, you don’t del­e­gate tasks. You are rely­ing on your­self and sim­ply telling God that you don’t need him because you don’t think your mem­bers can do it. Isn’t it God gave you the team to serve with?

3. Hid­den Supe­ri­or­i­ty

Some­times we are unaware of this, hid­den supe­ri­or­i­ty exists when we insist what we want , even oth­ers don’t like it.

When a leader lis­tened to sug­ges­tions from his or her mem­bers yet, he does the exact oppo­site of it because he thinks he is right all the time, not being teach­able is a hid­den supe­ri­or­i­ty.

4. Over ambi­tion

When there is over-ambi­tion, there is com­pe­ti­tion. Com­pe­ti­tion can be healthy but not all the time. I have joined short term mis­sions trip to oth­er nations twice already, I don’t agree when a leader told his or her co-work­ers of com­pet­ing with him in the min­istry. There are no com­pe­ti­tions in the min­istry! All of the mem­bers are work­ing for the advance­ment of the King­dom God in the nations not seek­ing glo­ry for them­selves.

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Pride blocks hap­pi­ness destroys uni­ty and can destroy one’s hope. I have learned not to blame Satan or the ene­my when we feel we are being attacked because he wants it, he wants us to think of him, he wants to dis­tract us from our pur­pose. When we are pride­ful, I think it’s bet­ter to ask God to reveal more of it and blame our­selves instead because we hard­ened our hearts.

But there’s good news. The cure for pride is no oth­er than love. Love more, give more and let go of what you’re hold­ing just like what God did for us.

He sent His only Son Jesus Christ to live the life we should have lived and died the death we should have died that gives us eter­nal life when we accept Him as Lord and Sav­ior, He gave every­thing so we could not boast to our­selves that we earn it. It is free.

I would like to leave you with this scrip­ture:

Do noth­ing out of self­ish ambi­tion or vain con­ceit. Rather, in humil­i­ty val­ue oth­ers above your­selves, — Philip­pi­ans 2:3

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