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Earlier, I ended my year to reflect on the things I’ve learned this year in a solitary place far, far away from the city. “The Prayer Mountain” as they call it. I saw many Christians too, offering their prayers of thanksgiving and supplication to God in the place.

While I was spend­ing time there, I had the chance to relax and feel the breeze of fresh air for a moment, then I pro­ceed pray­ing to God to check if my goals for 2017 is accord­ing to His will. As my usu­al prayer, He can do what every­thing what He pleas­es to my life.

My Reflections For The Year

While oth­ers are shar­ing their 16 lessons for 2016 or 16 hap­pi­ness list, I would be gen­er­ous to share the secret four ques­tions I’ve learned that helped me to suc­ceed this year. These ques­tions helped to achieved most of my goals this year.

It depends on your per­spec­tive about suc­cess, but for me, there’s no greater def­i­n­i­tion of suc­cess than to live a life blessed by God.

The 4 secret questions that changed my 2016

Our lives are being shaped by the ques­tion we ask. Good ques­tions lead to good out­comes, bad ques­tions leads to bad out­comes.

Just this year, I involved in two acci­dents.

  • The first one was Jan­u­ary. I was on my way home rid­ing a motor­bike when the motor­bike slipped off because of the sand. My knees hurt, and a part of my skin has peeled off.
  • The sec­ond was August. I was rid­ing a motor­bike again going to the office, rush­ing because I’m late when anoth­er car hit me at the back. The motor­bike wrecked and thank­ful­ly, I had no phys­i­cal dam­age to my body.
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At this point I would ask myself these ques­tions:

  • Why I am so care­less.
  • What I have done to deserve this!
  • Why does this have to hap­pen now?

But these ques­tions are unpro­duc­tive, dis-empow­er­ing, and neg­a­tive.

That’s how we react to sit­u­a­tions, to prob­lems, to adver­si­ties, and cir­cum­stances that are hap­pen­ing in our lives.

But ulti­mate­ly there are good ques­tions that can turn around your life when neg­a­tive hap­pens, and this is:

1. What makes this expe­ri­ence pos­si­ble?

Do you see the shift? In my case when my skin has peeled off, I can nev­er bring back the beau­ti­ful skin of my legs. It hap­pened in the past.

But this ques­tion asked, what I have done before that acci­dent hap­pened. What caused? And why? It does not just reveal the ulti­mate rea­son, but it offers sev­er­al pos­i­tive ben­e­fits like I need to be care­ful in dri­ving and watch my speed.

The bot­tom line for this ques­tion is, you can­not choose what hap­pens to you but you can choose what will be your response to those sit­u­a­tions.

2. How do you want oth­ers to remem­ber you?

Imag­ine your­self going to a memo­r­i­al ser­vice for the lost of your loved ones.

You see your rel­a­tives, broth­ers, par­ents, sis­ters, and friends griev­ing the loss.

As you draw near to the cas­ket to see whose body lies there. You see your­self. Sur­prise! 

When the ser­vice starts, each of your clos­est friends and rel­a­tives will give an hon­or on the account of you.

What would you like them to say about you? What kind of impact have you made to their lives?

How do you want to be remem­bered by these peo­ple in your life?

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Bring­ing out these ques­tion will help you to start at the end. What kind of life do you want in the end?

This has helped in cre­at­ing my goals and action plans.

3. What mat­ters most to you?

What mat­ters most to your life? For me as a Chris­t­ian, my faith is my pri­or­i­ty. God is my first pri­or­i­ty.

Next is my fam­i­ly, then career, and so on. No one can deter­mine your pri­or­i­ties except you.

4. How do I get from here to where I want to go or what I want to become?

Yes, you need a goal and an action plan!

And that summed up my reflec­tions ear­li­er. I wrote my answers in my jour­nal so I will always read it where I am or when I feel my life start­ed to drift again.

How about you? Share at least 3 things that made your 2016 suc­cess­ful.

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