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If you grew to be a serious person, and no one dares to talk with you, the chances are you were boring to converse with. Probably you’re one of the many people in this world who were pretty sick at your tasteless and boring you. Or perhaps you wanted to make your date to laugh at your jokes.


What­ev­er the rea­sons you might have, I want you to know that you’re not alone.

I grew up being a seri­ous per­son. Not talk­a­tive and was painful­ly shy. No one wants to talk with me. Most of the time when I was with my friends, I am just a wall flower.

I only talk when I have some­thing impor­tant to say. Imag­ine if you’re one of my friends you will not treat me as a human, I am more like a doll. You know what’s a doll?

I’m a nut­crack­er in a bar­bie world, it’s fan­tas­tic because it’s plas­tic. You can touch my hair and kiss me any­where cause I’m not respond­ing, I am worth­less! Well, that’s a male ver­sion for the bar­bie song.

Sure kids love dolls but adults? Meh. Adults are not. In a world today where most peo­ple are on the social media, it’s still vital for rela­tion­ships to have con­ver­sa­tions.

They said every­thing start­ed with a sim­ple “Hi!”. You get it right? Haha! And you are here to learn how to add some­thing to it.

Want to make your crush laugh at your jokes? Or make your bor­ing busi­ness pre­sen­ta­tions enter­tain­ing?

In my years of explor­ing and con­tin­ue learn­ing how to add humor to my writ­ing, speech­es, and con­ver­sa­tion, I found out the exact thing from my friend shared with me that make peo­ple laugh.

But sad­ly, the world deceives us that mak­ing fun of peo­ple are more applaud­ed. Gay come­di­ans do it. Oth­ers do it by using memes. But it’s a bad and taste­less humor. It is self­ish and offen­sive. Only inse­cure peo­ple who do it and I strong­ly do not rec­om­mend it.

Here’s what real­ly makes peo­ple laugh.

The 3Fs:

1. Your Failures

Noth­ing can ever more fun­ny than your fail­ures. When was the last time you felt so dumb? When was the last time you fail?

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The rea­son why peo­ple becomes so seri­ous is that they are hid­ing some­thing or they are shy.

When you share your fail­ures to the peo­ple you talk with, it opens your­self to them so they can share theirs too.

Get out of your shell and share your fail­ures. When the day I decid­ed to be vul­ner­a­ble to the peo­ple I talk with, I begin to devel­op fruit­ful rela­tion­ships and gain more friends.

It is hard at first but you’ll amaze when peo­ple respond­ed to you. You might encour­age oth­ers too.

Your fail­ures are not you. It is an event and peo­ple had the best time when they know they are not alone in their jour­ney.

2. Your Flaws.

All of us has flaws. No one is per­fect, but if you find one please do let me know so I can call the Roman Army to pre­pare a cross for him. We will cru­ci­fy him!

Kid­ding aside, our flaws can pro­vide a sense of humor. If bad come­di­ans or humorists make oth­er’s flaws laugh­able, do it to your­self too.

Show it to them how your flaws have helped you. I have one friend who is an author who has Parkin­son’s dis­ease, and every time she speaks at the stage to make a speech about her book, she informs us first that she can talk while danc­ing.


I am so inspired and at the same time laugh how she is car­ry­ing her­self. It taught me to car­ry your­self always in such a way peo­ple will admire you for your flaws but most of us were ashamed of it that’s why peo­ple respond also in a neg­a­tive man­ner.

I believe every­one has flaws. It’s one of the hard­est things to reveal to peo­ple but when you are tru­ly secure enough, you can! I can name a few per­son­al­i­ty but there’s no greater than Nick Vuci­jic who has no arms and legs, car­ry him­self and make fun of his flaws and it helped him to find faith in God

What makes you weird? Some­times it’s our weird­ness that makes peo­ple laugh.

I believe every one of us is weird. We are cre­at­ed unique and have dif­fer­ent flaws. Instead of using it to bring down oth­ers or your­self, make fun with it. Peo­ple will love you for it.

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3. Your Firsts.

Your first-time expe­ri­ences are rich as oth­ers expe­ri­ences.

Your first heart bro­ken, first rejec­tion, first romance, first fail­ure, first speech. It’s wor­thy to share how you exe­cut­ed them and how you learned from them.

There was a time I shared to my speech project the first time I dat­ed a woman. I shared all my mishaps and short­com­ings.

At first I thought that most of the men in the audi­ence will call me dumb or will give me an advice after, but instead, I received a com­pli­ment. They said they can relate what I share and even encour­age me more. I just don’t know if they are encour­ag­ing me to get more dates or more of my mishaps in my speech­es. Haha

Either of this three, when incor­po­rat­ed in a speech, can cre­ate humor. It’s like court­ing a woman, be your­self and do your best.

You can’t be your­self and do your best when you are step­ping only your best foot for­ward. Peo­ple can smell if you are pre­tend­ing to be some­one you’re not.

I hope you get some­thing today from what I have shared and apply this in your next speech­es, book, blog arti­cle or con­ver­sa­tion.

Seize that bor­ing date. Seize that bor­ing busi­ness pre­sen­ta­tion.

Do you have some­thing to share about how to make peo­ple laugh also? Speak up! Share it in the com­ments.

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I blog about my dis­cov­er­ies and learn­ings with per­son­al devel­op­ment, blog­ging, writ­ing, pub­lic speak­ing, and pub­lish­ing. I am a Jesus fol­low­er. Each month, I send out a newslet­ter with free tips on those top­ics.

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