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How Do I Know What Season I’m In


Happy Easter! Kidding aside, I want to greet you a happy hearts day. If you have a date today, great! Prepare for a candle light dinner! But if you don’t have one, don’t worry, God loves you! He is just busy right now preparing you and writing your best love story ever.

All year round, it seems roman­tic rela­tion­ship has been the top trend in social media. There will nev­er be a day you will nev­er find hash­tags like #rela­tion­ship­goals #dat­ingmy­babe #myo­netru­elove #myonly­bae #dat­ing #datenight #myboo #mar­riedlife #sin­gle­hood #love­quote #forever­alone #walang­for­ev­er #best­friend­zone and many of them! Plus the dozens of com­mer­cials peo­ple are watch­ing.

And because of this, many sin­gle peo­ple are being pres­sured by the norms telling us that not being in a rela­tion­ship is not nor­mal. “You have to join the trend!” as oth­er peo­ple seems whis­per­ing it loud­ly to your ears.

Some of your friends also find­ing a way for you to meet some­one, some will set up a blind date, believe me, one of my friends did that to me! I was shak­ing my head in dis­be­lief and laugh­ing out loud why they have to do that. But I had to reject the offer because I was nev­er a fan of blind dates.

If you are sin­gle, let me tell you this: “It is bet­ter to be sin­gle than hav­ing a bad time because you are in the wrong rela­tion­ship.”

Don’t love when you are lonely, love when you are ready!


Last Sat­ur­day, it was a priv­i­lege to be part of an event where all the sin­gle peo­ple in the church were gath­ered to lis­ten to Pas­tor Joseph Boni­fa­cio and his wife, Rica Perale­jo who was a for­mer celebri­ty and now a mom and a lifestyle blog­ger.

They shared some gems about sea­sons, and how we can hon­or God in every sea­son of our lives.

But first, let’s define the sea­son first.




A sea­son is char­ac­ter­ized by a par­tic­u­lar activ­i­ty or event. In some coun­tries they have four sea­sons (win­ter, spring, sum­mer, and autumn), in our coun­try I think we only have three (hot, hot­ter, hottest).

In a Chris­t­ian con­text, a sea­son is a famous word you can often hear from a Chris­t­ian espe­cial­ly when they are fac­ing some­thing or tran­si­tion­ing to a dif­fer­ent career or anoth­er lev­el of rela­tion­ship.

In the Bible, it says: “To every­thing, there is a sea­son, A time for every pur­pose under heav­en — Eccle­si­astes 3:1”

But some­times, it is real­ly hard to wait espe­cial­ly in the area of roman­tic rela­tion­ships. Until when can we wait? When is the right time to enter a rela­tion­ship? Will not my wait­ing go in vain?

To answer that ques­tions, you have to know what sea­son are you in first.




First is to ask your­self:

1. What is my real­i­ty?

Our real­i­ty will deter­mine what sea­son we are in. For exam­ple, if you are stu­dent and long­ing for a rela­tion­ship, then I have bad news for you, you aren’t ready to move to anoth­er sea­son. Fin­ish your stud­ies first and wait for God to move you to a dif­fer­ent sea­son.

If you are already a pro­fes­sion­al. Then you might need to rethink your sea­son. Am I still build­ing my career? My finances? My busi­ness? Are you emo­tion­al­ly and spir­i­tu­al­ly mature?

Being in a rela­tion­ship is hard but it’s worth fight­ing for. I post­ed a few days ago on my Face­book account that it is very expen­sive to be in love and court a woman than hav­ing an argu­ment about which is cheap (2 PC. Chick­en joy with extra rice or 1 PC. Chick­en joy plus spaghet­ti with chick­en a la carte)?

How do I know this when in fact I’m not in a rela­tion­ship yet? I think my courtship sea­son with a girl two years ago that did­n’t lead to mar­riage would be enough to prove it, and oh boy courtship is cost­ly.
Any­way, wait­ing is hard. But hold fast, God knows what He is doing in your life right now.


Even if we think that waiting times are wasted time, for God it is not. Every season has a purpose, for Him, there is no wasted season.



2. What bears the most fruit?

It’s fool­ish to ignore the sea­son you’re in.” — Joseph Boni­fa­cio

Your sea­son must be obvi­ous to you. If God calls you to a sea­son of tak­ing care of your par­ents or spend­ing more time with your fam­i­ly, then it’s the sea­son you are right now.

If your career is bear­ing fruit, you are in the sea­son where your career is flour­ish­ing.

If God is call­ing you to do a spe­cif­ic task, then that is where God putting you for the next sea­son of your life.

When Adam was in the Gar­den of Eden, he had every­thing, but he can’t do it alone him­self of tak­ing care of such a huge gar­den, that’s when God cre­at­ed Eve, a suit­able helper for him.

Whatever season you are in right now, remember that your season will shape you as a person. Sometimes it will test your character, sometimes your faith.

Many peo­ple mis­un­der­stand a career for a call­ing. God called us to have a rela­tion­ship with Him, that’s the only call­ing that can be found in the Bible.

A career is not a call­ing, per­haps I can call it for myself as a sea­son. Right now, I’m in the sea­son of build­ing a career in the cor­po­rate world. But I feel God is tran­si­tion­ing me to anoth­er career and I’m pray­ing earnest­ly for what He is about to do and I’m excit­ed to part­ner with Him in the next sea­son of my life.

What area of your life bears fruit? Prob­a­bly that’s your cur­rent sea­son.

And last­ly,



3. What is God doing in your life?

For me, this is a bit tricky espe­cial­ly if there are so many oppor­tu­ni­ties that are com­ing out in your life.

First, ask God what is doing in your life. As for me, I reflect on my past. What has God done in my life for the past two years?

You may try to look for a pat­tern and start con­nect­ing the dots. I like how Steve Jobs said it. He once said; “You can’t con­nect the dots look­ing for­ward, you can only con­nect them look­ing back­ward. So you have to trust that the dots will some­how con­nect in your future.”


Today is Valen­tines Day. Many cou­ples will go out for a date. And if you’re sin­gle like me, don’t envy oth­er peo­ple’s sea­son.

Remem­ber God has a dif­fer­ent sto­ry writ­ten for each of us. Being in a rela­tion­ship is not just a sea­son nei­ther a reward, it’s a call­ing. When God final­ly calls you to enter a rela­tion­ship with some­one, he called you to be a hus­band or wife. He called you to a mar­ried life.

But for now, do the work of your sea­son. Go bear fruit! Add val­ue to the peo­ple around you. Enjoy your own sea­son, cher­ish it and don’t envy oth­er peo­ple’s sea­son. You have the gift that mar­ried cou­ples does­n’t have, and that is your “Yes”.

Mar­shal Segal, a writer in Desir­ing God said:

“One of your greatest spiritual gifts as a single person is your “Yes.”

Yes to a random phone conversation.

Yes to coffee. Yes to help with the move.

Yes to stepping in when someone’s sick.

Yes to a late-night movie or the special event downtown.

You have the unbelievable freedom to say yes when married people can’t even ask the question.

When the spouse doesn’t exist, you can’t hurt them with your selfless, impulsive decisions.

Be willing to say Yes! and bless others, even when you don’t always feel like it.”

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Trust and have faith in God that He is doing some­thing great in every sea­son of your life.

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