Why Volunteering Can Develop Your Leadership Skills

I remem­ber 10 years ago when one of my class­mates in col­lege encour­aged me to be part of the stu­dent gov­ern­ment in which I refused because I don’t like to asso­ciate with peo­ple. I’m an intro­vert and I had oth­er impor­tant things to do and I want noth­ing to add up into it.

For so many years, I once believed a lie in which my grade 3 teacher  told me: “You will achieve noth­ing in life.”, then she picked out her stain­less ruler, hit it into my hands until it turns red because I refuse to give my 10 pesos allowance to her in exchange of a snack she pre­pared for the class.

I can still remem­ber how many times my class­mates vot­ed me to become a leader or be a group leader but I refused it because I have been fram­ing my mind the belief of I was not good enough.

But God has a dif­fer­ent plan. It start­ed when I signed up to become a vol­un­teer in the church I am attend­ing. Lit­tle by lit­tle it stretch­es me to become a leader and learned how to work with oth­er vol­un­teers.

After becom­ing a vol­un­teer in the church, I led a small group of young sin­gle pro­fes­sion­als who were old­er than me. I was lead­ing a group of men was around 25 to 35 years old when I was 22 years old! I also vol­un­teered twice in mis­sion trips abroad and some out­reach projects in which stretched my faith, char­ac­ter and lead­er­ship abil­i­ty. Fol­lowed by man­ag­ing a group of vol­un­teers in one of our com­pa­ny cor­po­rate ini­tia­tives.

All I can say is that my life has changed because of vol­un­teer­ing. And let me give you some rea­sons why it can be also ben­e­fi­cial to you.

1. Vol­un­teer­ing allows you to fig­ure out who you are.

I believe each per­son has their own imprint of what they will become. Some peo­ple I know have already dis­cov­ered their own by the time they reached 13. Some took longer just like me.

I vol­un­teered as a com­put­er oper­a­tor in church but lat­er on, I real­ized that I was not only cre­at­ed to oper­ate a com­put­er, hence I tried vol­un­teer­ing in com­mu­ni­ca­tions group since I love writ­ing, but the demand for the min­istry was too low and they nev­er con­tact­ed me. Haha!

Until I signed up to be a teacher in the Kids Min­istry. At first, I was hes­i­tant since I’m an intro­vert! I was afraid if one day they will call me to stand in the front! Well, it hap­pened. I was shak­ing at that moment when they assigned me to become a host! I hat­ed pub­lic speak­ing.

But the more I vol­un­teer to do host­ing the more I became com­fort­able doing it. Then I switch to anoth­er role in which I want myself to learn more.

Lat­er on, I fig­ured out that I love teach­ing. It made me remem­ber my child­hood dream to become a teacher in which I didn’t pur­sue because being a teacher here in the Philip­pine is such a noble task but let’s face that it can­not give you a high pay­ing job.

2. Vol­un­teer­ing builds your lead­er­ship.

Since vol­un­teer­ing requires you to work with peo­ple, it will help you to build your lead­er­ship skills. I men­tioned ear­li­er that I was an inse­cure per­son.

The longer I vol­un­teer, the more J under­stand peo­ple and learn how to work with them.

In my job, I wasn’t allowed to prac­tice or learn a skill in project man­age­ment. And since I can­not do it in my job, I have to find a way to learn it. That’s when I took a project man­ag­er role to han­dle a big event in our com­pa­ny. It was a fright­ful one but it became suc­cess­ful. Now I learned the skill!

Work­ing with peo­ple allows you to learn more about them. Soon you will be lead­ing them and it is impor­tant that you know them per­son­al­ly.

Vol­un­teer­ing allows you to meet dif­fer­ent peo­ple that can help you to achieve your dreams. This is where I learned that lead­ers are not born, they are made.

And last,

3. Vol­un­teer­ing allows you to prac­tice.

Do you want to become a pro­lif­ic writer? a radio host? what about a pub­lic speak­er? Do it for free!

Vol­un­teer­ing is a great place to achieve your dreams. I’ve known per­son­al­i­ties who took their time in vol­un­teer­ing.

It has been my dream to become a moti­va­tion­al speak­er, so I joined Toast­mas­ters Inter­na­tion­al to learn pub­lic speak­ing. At first, I was afraid, but since Toast­mas­ters is a safe envi­ron­ment to exper­i­ment and prac­tice my com­mu­ni­ca­tion skills, I gave it a shot!

Each club meet­ing I deliv­er my speech projects and vol­un­teered on cer­tain roles. Until I real­ized, I can now man­age my fear of speak­ing in pub­lic!

Mal­colm Glad­well in his book “The Tip­ping Point”, he men­tioned that it requires 10,000 hours for a per­son to mas­ter a skill. That’s a lot of time! And vol­un­teer­ing is one of the best ways to prac­tice and hone your skills.

Today, I’m a pub­lic speak­er, a teacher, a writer, and a pub­lished author and a vol­un­teer!. And how I could that? All was start­ed by becom­ing a vol­un­teer.

I still have so much to learn as of this moment, hence I will con­tin­ue to vol­un­teer.

Becom­ing a vol­un­teer is a win-win. You learn and can mas­ter a skill and, you help oth­er peo­ple. And vol­un­teer­ing allows you to put all your heart into every­thing you do.

Are you a vol­un­teer already?

How to Make People Laugh

If you grew to be a serious person, and no one dares to talk with you, the chances are you were boring to converse with. Probably you’re one of the many people in this world who were pretty sick at your tasteless and boring you. Or perhaps you wanted to make your date to laugh at your jokes.


What­ev­er the rea­sons you might have, I want you to know that you’re not alone.

I grew up being a seri­ous per­son. Not talk­a­tive and was painful­ly shy. No one wants to talk with me. Most of the time when I was with my friends, I am just a wall flower.

I only talk when I have some­thing impor­tant to say. Imag­ine if you’re one of my friends you will not treat me as a human, I am more like a doll. You know what’s a doll?

I’m a nut­crack­er in a bar­bie world, it’s fan­tas­tic because it’s plas­tic. You can touch my hair and kiss me any­where cause I’m not respond­ing, I am worth­less! Well, that’s a male ver­sion for the bar­bie song.

Sure kids love dolls but adults? Meh. Adults are not. In a world today where most peo­ple are on the social media, it’s still vital for rela­tion­ships to have con­ver­sa­tions.

They said every­thing start­ed with a sim­ple “Hi!”. You get it right? Haha! And you are here to learn how to add some­thing to it.

Want to make your crush laugh at your jokes? Or make your bor­ing busi­ness pre­sen­ta­tions enter­tain­ing?

In my years of explor­ing and con­tin­ue learn­ing how to add humor to my writ­ing, speech­es, and con­ver­sa­tion, I found out the exact thing from my friend shared with me that make peo­ple laugh.

But sad­ly, the world deceives us that mak­ing fun of peo­ple are more applaud­ed. Gay come­di­ans do it. Oth­ers do it by using memes. But it’s a bad and taste­less humor. It is self­ish and offen­sive. Only inse­cure peo­ple who do it and I strong­ly do not rec­om­mend it.

Here’s what real­ly makes peo­ple laugh.

The 3Fs:

1. Your Failures

Noth­ing can ever more fun­ny than your fail­ures. When was the last time you felt so dumb? When was the last time you fail?

The rea­son why peo­ple becomes so seri­ous is that they are hid­ing some­thing or they are shy.

When you share your fail­ures to the peo­ple you talk with, it opens your­self to them so they can share theirs too.

Get out of your shell and share your fail­ures. When the day I decid­ed to be vul­ner­a­ble to the peo­ple I talk with, I begin to devel­op fruit­ful rela­tion­ships and gain more friends.

It is hard at first but you’ll amaze when peo­ple respond­ed to you. You might encour­age oth­ers too.

Your fail­ures are not you. It is an event and peo­ple had the best time when they know they are not alone in their jour­ney.

2. Your Flaws.

All of us has flaws. No one is per­fect, but if you find one please do let me know so I can call the Roman Army to pre­pare a cross for him. We will cru­ci­fy him!

Kid­ding aside, our flaws can pro­vide a sense of humor. If bad come­di­ans or humorists make other’s flaws laugh­able, do it to your­self too.

Show it to them how your flaws have helped you. I have one friend who is an author who has Parkinson’s dis­ease, and every time she speaks at the stage to make a speech about her book, she informs us first that she can talk while danc­ing.


I am so inspired and at the same time laugh how she is car­ry­ing her­self. It taught me to car­ry your­self always in such a way peo­ple will admire you for your flaws but most of us were ashamed of it that’s why peo­ple respond also in a neg­a­tive man­ner.

I believe every­one has flaws. It’s one of the hard­est things to reveal to peo­ple but when you are tru­ly secure enough, you can! I can name a few per­son­al­i­ty but there’s no greater than Nick Vuci­jic who has no arms and legs, car­ry him­self and make fun of his flaws and it helped him to find faith in God

What makes you weird? Some­times it’s our weird­ness that makes peo­ple laugh.

I believe every one of us is weird. We are cre­at­ed unique and have dif­fer­ent flaws. Instead of using it to bring down oth­ers or your­self, make fun with it. Peo­ple will love you for it.

3. Your Firsts.

Your first-time expe­ri­ences are rich as oth­ers expe­ri­ences.

Your first heart bro­ken, first rejec­tion, first romance, first fail­ure, first speech. It’s wor­thy to share how you exe­cut­ed them and how you learned from them.

There was a time I shared to my speech project the first time I dat­ed a woman. I shared all my mishaps and short­com­ings.

At first I thought that most of the men in the audi­ence will call me dumb or will give me an advice after, but instead, I received a com­pli­ment. They said they can relate what I share and even encour­age me more. I just don’t know if they are encour­ag­ing me to get more dates or more of my mishaps in my speech­es. Haha

Either of this three, when incor­po­rat­ed in a speech, can cre­ate humor. It’s like court­ing a woman, be your­self and do your best.

You can’t be your­self and do your best when you are step­ping only your best foot for­ward. Peo­ple can smell if you are pre­tend­ing to be some­one you’re not.

I hope you get some­thing today from what I have shared and apply this in your next speech­es, book, blog arti­cle or con­ver­sa­tion.

Seize that bor­ing date. Seize that bor­ing busi­ness pre­sen­ta­tion.

Do you have some­thing to share about how to make peo­ple laugh also? Speak up! Share it in the com­ments.

Fight For Something Rather Than Nothing

George Pallon said, “Fight for something rather than live for nothing.”

Have you ever thought why many peo­ple don’t come too close to achiev­ing their dreams?

It’s sim­ple, they don’t fight for it. Har­ry Style author of Dare to Dream has some­thing to say about this. He said, “A dream is a dream until you make it real.”

Too many peo­ple stuck at wish­ful think­ing, they dream big dreams, writ­ing ambi­tious and auda­cious goals but they can’t even make any sin­gle step achiev­ing it.

Our minds are pow­er­ful. It has been the mas­ter behind the many suc­cess­es of suc­cess­ful peo­ple like Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Elon Musk and Mark Zucker­berg. Imag­ine, your idea has the poten­tial to change the world!

But these peo­ple doesn’t stop until their ideas become a real­i­ty. Bill Gates dreamed of see­ing com­put­ers in class­rooms. Mark Zucker­berg who once dreamed of con­nect­ing Har­vard Stu­dents togeth­er then he expand­ed it to the world. They fight for it.

We know how many adver­saries they have faced before they become suc­cess­ful.

That’s where many peo­ple failed. They keep dream­ing. They couldn’t see how their dreams will make an impact on the lives of oth­ers, or per­haps they dream self­ish dreams.

How would you know if your dreams are self­ish?

  • First, you think only of your­self.
  • Sec­ond, it’s not going to make an impact on the lives of oth­er peo­ple.

Why don’t peo­ple fight for their dreams?

  1. Lack of vision.

Where there is no vision the peo­ple per­ish..” — Proverbs 29:18

God hates peo­ple who are lazy, those who doesn’t have a vision. The writer of psalms and proverbs even called them fool­ish.

In the Bible, I learned that every good king Israel has, they for­got to pass the vision to their chil­dren. King Hezeki­ah would be a great exam­ple when God told him he’s going to die, and he needs to set his house in order.

The king plead­ed with God to extend his life, God did it but Hezeki­ah entire­ly for­got to pass the baton to his son. He for­got to teach his son the laws and his wis­dom.

Are you at the cross­roads of choos­ing which course to take in col­lege? Choose what you real­ly want­ed to become in the future and what do you real­ly love to do.

I’ve known many stu­dents regret­ted their deci­sion and chose to shift cours­es or worst fig­ur­ing out what will fit for them. In the end, they didn’t fin­ish any­thing.

You are the only one who can know what you real­ly want, don’t let oth­ers dic­tate you who you want to become. You have the vision and some­times you have to fight alone.

Peo­ple will regard you bad­ly for your vision. Some­times they will accuse you of social climb­ing when you try to net­work with peo­ple and build rela­tion­ships with them. Here’s a great sto­ry to illus­trate that.

One day in the jun­gle, a wolf was hunt­ing for his din­ner. Then he saw rab­bit jump­ing around the area. Wolf tried to catch him but rab­bit jumps quick­ly as he can.

Wolf pissed off when he was not able to catch the rab­bit. He cried out, “aw oooooh”. A group of wolves heard him and did the same.

Still, wolf run­ning from jun­gle to jun­gle. Oth­er wolfs start­ed to fol­low him. He was hav­ing fol­low­ers now.

But when they saw rab­bit was going to jump from the cliff, oth­er wolf start­ed to quit. They said to the wolf that rab­bit is not worth it. They accused him of get­ting the advan­tage of them. Stop hunt­ing after it. He’s not going to catch the rab­bit.

But wolf made a jump that he was able to catch and made the rab­bit his din­ner and share it with oth­ers. The End.

Like the wolf, his friends or rel­a­tives might not see the way he’s going to make rab­bit his din­ner.

Just like you, some peo­ple will fol­low you for some time when they see your idea is good, but after that, they will accuse you. They will not see your dreams the way you see it. it’s only you can see that.

Wolf has the vision, his going to have a din­ner. The oth­er wolves did not, they only fol­low him to have a share of the meat.

When you achieve your dreams, don’t keep it to your­self. Share it and teach it to oth­ers.

  1. Lack of self-esteem.

Many peo­ple lack self-con­fi­dence about them­selves. When you are not sure of your­self, more like­ly you’ll end up inse­cure.

I remem­ber when my men­tor told me that if I want to become an author, I should start telling myself that I’m an author.

That’s why the moment I joined Toast­mas­ters, I didn’t call myself a toast­mas­ter. I called myself a pub­lic speak­er.

There’s pow­er in self-affir­ma­tion. It’s like a self-ful­fill­ing prophe­cy. Napoleon Hill said, “What­ev­er the mind can con­ceive, it can achieve.”

The writer of proverbs also said in Proverbs 23:7 AMP, “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he [in behavior—one who manip­u­lates].”

Wolf didn’t fear he might fall off from the cliff if he con­tin­ue and that’s courage.

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I fear pub­lic speak­ing. I am thank­ful that I have men­tors and the com­mu­ni­ty who knows what I am going through. They taught me how to man­age my fear in stage and talk­ing with peo­ple.

And last­ly,

  1. Fear of fail­ure.

Going back to the wolf sto­ry, the wolf didn’t fear fail­ure. He knows he’s going to fall off the cliff if he failed What now? It’s only a cliff, there’s a lake under­neath, he’s still alive when that hap­pens.

The lake was nev­er men­tioned in the sto­ry and yet I includ­ed that.

Most of the time fear oper­ates in a way like that. We are the one who cre­at­ed the fear. We are cre­at­ing the worst pos­si­ble out­come even it didn’t hap­pen yet.

Last week, it was my first time to join a pub­lic speak­ing con­test. I was ner­vous, what if I failed I said. But I’ve been remind­ed that it’s okay to fail rather than doing noth­ing at all.

I cre­at­ed a result which was not yet even exist­ed. That’s what fear is even called False Evi­dence Appear­ing Real.

After the con­test, sur­pris­ing­ly I won the third place in the impromp­tu speech con­test.

It is true that what you real­ly want is on the oth­er side of the fear. Only if you have the courage to get out your com­fort zone and con­quer that fear.

Ear­ly this morn­ing, I watched anoth­er Jack­ie Chan movie. He is one of my favorite actors. And one thing I noticed in his movies was, he dares him­self to do it.

When­ev­er he has a fight scene, you’re going to see a blood­shed and a very intense bat­tle. The one who sur­ren­ders first will lose the fight. Quit­ters nev­er win, you have to fight what­ev­er it takes.

That’s what your dreams are for. Grind all the way you can and fight for it. Silence your fears, stop lis­ten­ing to your naysay­ers.

Keep in mind that hurt peo­ple hurt peo­ple. When peo­ple see you help­ing the poor, they will call you fake. When peo­ple will see you build­ing net­work and rela­tion­ship with peo­ple who think the same as you are, they will call you the social climber. The world has enough of neg­a­tive mind­ed peo­ple, be the salt and the light.

And remem­ber that suc­cess­ful peo­ple don’t end being suc­cess­ful. They help oth­ers to become like them. They share what they learned some­times for free and some­times for a fee.

And when it has a fee, only seri­ous peo­ple who will take it. The rea­son why most suc­cess­ful peo­ple requires oth­er peo­ple to pay for a learn­ing fee is because they want only to cater peo­ple who are com­mit­ted to becom­ing suc­cess­ful what­ev­er it takes.

And I am grate­ful to know peo­ple like them. I met a friend who was even a stu­dent and he’s now sav­ing up just to be able to attend that sem­i­nar.

Don’t let your dreams stay only as a dream. Fight for it. Our heroes once dream of hav­ing the free­dom from our oppres­sors, they fought and risked their lives for the free­dom we enjoy right now.

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Doing These 7 Things Will Pay You Off Forever

It’s the last month of the year and before we cel­e­brate this sea­son that God gave us, I believe that reflect­ing on the past few months of this year could be a great thing for us to face the new year. Are you excit­ed about it?

As I reflect, there were so many things hap­pened in my life that I can be thank­ful enough and I would like to share it with you those 7 things that I start­ed doing in my life that I believe will pay me off for­ev­er and you too!

Here are the 7 things that will pay you off for­ev­er:

1. Invest­ing in your­self

One of the best things that hap­pened in my life was the time I invest­ed on it. Before I was frus­trat­ed about my life because I didn’t know what to do with it.

I have no direc­tion in life, no goals, no plans and liv­ing a life just to exists was not so good because life is meant to be cel­e­brat­ed because of its pur­pose.

And so while my life was wrecked and messy, I made a deci­sion for myself to invest on it.

If I could invest mon­ey on gad­gets, online games and some of the things that don’t mat­ter in life, why not use my mon­ey to make my life pur­pose­ful? And so I start­ed read­ing books even I don’t read books in my life­time except for those heavy books I used to car­ry when I was study­ing.

After read­ing books, I learned that there are live events like sem­i­nars, train­ing that could open up more oppor­tu­ni­ties for me to learn from peo­ple, and so even it was too uncom­fort­able for me to be with the strangers because I am an intro­vert, I coerced myself to sign up to sem­i­nars in which I am inter­est­ed in involv­ing with, and my life has nev­er been the same because of it.

Con­tin­ue learn­ing is what fuels my pas­sion for life­long learn­ing, and every­thing I have learned and I will going to learn… I am gen­er­ous­ly giv­ing it to you by shar­ing it here in my blog, so stay tuned!

2. Being hon­est

Most of my friends told me that some­times I am bru­tal­ly hon­est. And yes, there are times I speak what I feel. If giv­en an oppor­tu­ni­ty to give feed­back to some­one, I am proud that I can be too hon­est about it. Because I believe being hon­est will help peo­ple a lot to reflect on them­selves than sug­ar coat­ing your words to make peo­ple com­fort­able.

And did you know that the great thing about being hon­est (being true, telling the truth, liv­ing in integri­ty) is that you nev­er have to remem­ber what you said? Why? Because you know to your­self that you tell the truth, there’s no guilt on it and it will not give you stress.

When you speak the truth, you speak and for­get it. Oth­er­wise, if you speak a lie, you won’t eas­i­ly for­get what you just have said, because you will keep think­ing about it and you’ll stress your­self what if that per­son fig­ured out that you’re not telling the truth? The chances are you will become stressed because of it, hence bet­ter to speak the truth.

3. Watch­ing where your mon­ey goes.

While this is a per­son­al finance stuff which one of the things I am pas­sion­ate about, even you are not a mon­ey-mind­ful per­son, mon­i­tor­ing your expens­es will pay you off.

Where your mon­ey goes? Do you love to spend on big pur­chas­es? But did you know that you can be buried in debt by spend­ing on small pur­chas­es? What are those small pur­chas­es? They are the food you eat, your mobile or inter­net sub­scrip­tions, loans and etc.

Mon­i­tor­ing your expens­es will pay you off BIG time.

4. Dai­ly exer­cise rou­tine.

Exer­cise can be a daunt­ing task for most of us.

First, it’s too uncom­fort­able because it takes out the blood and sweat out of you.

Sec­ond­ly, Mil­lenials were the lazi­est gen­er­a­tion of all the gen­er­a­tions that have come! I’d rather take vit­a­mins and sup­ple­ments to lose weight? Why should I go to the gym?

Hon­est­ly, that’s one of my many excus­es why I don’t exer­cise but in order for me to live my life to the fullest, I need not only to chal­lenge my brain cells to learn some­thing new but my body also needs to chal­lenge in order for it to grow.

I’m not real­ly a fan of sup­ple­ments, though they are effec­tive but they don’t chal­lenge your body to grow and teach it to endure pain and chal­lenges along the way. And for me I believe, hav­ing an exer­cise rou­tine is the best, it makes you more atten­tive, and phys­i­cal­ly attrac­tive.

5. Prac­tice Pub­lic Speak­ing

I believe pub­lic speak­ing is one of the essen­tial skills that most peo­ple need. Through­out the years I hat­ed myself for not being able to com­mu­ni­cate my thoughts prop­er­ly. Most of my friends noticed that I am afraid to speak up, well that’s my nature because I’m an intro­vert.

Through­out my career, I always received a feed­back that I need to improve my com­mu­ni­ca­tion skills, though I am a more tech­ni­cal­ly inclined per­son, my pre­vi­ous man­ag­er believed that learn­ing how to com­mu­ni­cate prop­er­ly to the stake­hold­ers and cus­tomers are far more great­ly impor­tant than any­thing else.

And because of that feed­back, I took it to my heart as a les­son and start­ed over­com­ing myself by attempt­ing to vis­it a Toast­mas­ter Club near­by office. From that day on, my life has changed for the bet­ter. I was bet­ter than good.

Toast­mas­ters has helped me to build my self-con­fi­dence and how I am going to com­mu­ni­cate effec­tive­ly with peo­ple either in small meet­ings or large events like con­fer­ences and sem­i­nars. And besides one of my dreams is to become a best-sell­ing author and moti­va­tion­al speak­er some­day and I am thank­ful that I took this first step.

If you think pub­lic speak­ing is not for you, don’t wor­ry, Toast­mas­ters was not just exist­ed for pub­lic speak­ing train­ing, it’s mis­sion is to make lead­ers, Toast­mas­ters Inter­na­tion­al is the place where great lead­ers are made — because great lead­ers are effec­tive com­mu­ni­ca­tors.

6. Doc­u­ment­ing every­thing.

Cur­rent­ly, I have two local men­tors in book writ­ing, Sha Naci­no and Den­nis Sy. Both of them are my good men­tors, and I look up to them as my inspi­ra­tion to write a book.

Just this year, I launched my first book which I intend­ed to write for myself because I wrote my tes­ti­mo­ny of God’s grace in my life in a hun­dred-page book. If you want to read it, go buy one copy from me. 🙂

I’ve met many peo­ple who want to write a book also but nev­er start­ed writ­ing. Pas­tor Den­nis Sy taught us that in order for us to write a book, write first, then write and write and write.

I have a con­fes­sion to make, after my first book, I was actu­al­ly very dis­cour­aged to write anoth­er one because of the crit­i­cism I received from oth­ers that my book was poor­ly writ­ten, because of gram­mat­i­cal errors. And I admit that it was poor­ly edit­ed not poor­ly writ­ten. I repeat, it was poor­ly edit­ed.

But my men­tors have taught me to per­se­vere and con­tin­ue writ­ing, besides I am not writ­ing for one sin­gle per­son who can crit­i­cize my work, I am writ­ing for myself and I just want­ed to share it with the world in a form of a book.

So if you were afraid to write a book like me because you are not good at gram­mar, don’t wor­ry, just write, do your job and the edi­tor will do the rest. Don’t lis­ten to naysay­ers that you can’t. Don’t lis­ten that you are just doing it for fame, you are writ­ing a book because you want to share your sto­ry to the world that can inspire mul­ti­tudes of peo­ple in every nation.

And one thing you should do first is to doc­u­ment every­thing. Go ahead, write every­thing that you have observed, what are the lessons you’ve learned for the day. Take pic­tures of nature and write some­thing about it.

Make no excus­es any­more. If you can, you will. And one more thing:

7. Mas­ter a skill one at a time.

Before, I was very frus­trat­ed that I am not an expert of one skill. I don’t have a degree in busi­ness admin­is­tra­tion to start a busi­ness. I am not a finance expert to invest, and I am not an expert coder to become a pro­gram­mer.

I real­ized that in order to mas­ter a skill, you need to learn it through con­stant prac­tice. I have learned that it pays for­ward to mas­ter mul­ti­ple skills.

I know some peo­ple who are great at cod­ing but lack tech­ni­cal under­stand­ing how the com­put­er works. I know also some pro­gram­mers who even don’t know what to do when their com­put­er crash­es.

I am glad that I learned mul­ti­ple skill when I was young and I owe it to my father. Because when I was young, I used to watch him every time he repairs the car, a bicy­cle or even repair­ing or assem­bling a home fur­ni­ture.

Today, I am proud to say that I have learned so many skills in life. From tech­ni­cal, con­struc­tion, cook­ing, writ­ing and now I am learn­ing how to write a book and pub­lic speak­ing.

And these are the 7 Things Will Pay You Off For­ev­er and I assure you that your future self will thank you for learn­ing these skills.

TED’s Secret to Great Public Speaking

Photo Taken 2014

Pho­to Tak­en 2014

Yes­ter­day, I’ve played a cou­ple of down­loaded TED Talks on my phone while rid­ing in a van going home at a late night. I was amazed, how these peo­ple were able to talk direct­ly to their thou­sands of audi­ence and made them con­nect­ed to what the speak­er is say­ing.

To my curios­i­ty to learn more about per­sua­sive com­mu­ni­ca­tion,  I actu­al­ly watched more than three times from the TED App the video pod­casts by Chris Ander­son: TED’s secret to great pub­lic speak­ing.

And today, I actu­al­ly wrote this to share it with you the lessons I’ve learned so far and might apply these lessons to my future speech projects in toast­mas­ters. If it hap­pens that you are a toast­mas­ter as well, hi there! Are you watch­ing TED Talks also? If that so, I hope you’ll be able to get some­thing new today as you read this blog. You’ll nev­er know, maybe you will get a chance to share your idea in one of the TED Con­fer­ences in the coun­try in the future and this might be a big help also to you.

Ever won­der why most of the speak­er caught audience’s atten­tion instant­ly? Well, I thought it was a gift or a tal­ent that God gave to each peo­ple whom He called to be a preach­er or a speak­er but oh boy, I was wrong! Here are their secrets:


1. Focus on one major idea.

I’ve start­ed attend­ing sem­i­nars and con­fer­ences year 2013. All through­out the sem­i­nars, I always tried my best to lis­ten and not missed any­thing from the speak­er is say­ing, I also did observe them while they give their talks.

Most great speak­ers I’ve known always focus on one major idea, because the mind can only accept one idea at a time.

In order for a speak­er to trans­fer the idea he or she has in mind to oth­er peo­ple, he or she should lim­it his or her entire talk to one major idea.

I have observed this to most speak­ers as well, how­ev­er, some, stay long enough to the intro­duc­tion of them­selves by shar­ing their sto­ries, that they have so many to men­tion and they even­tu­al­ly for­get their major idea.

2. Give peo­ple a rea­son to care.

Speak­ing is some­how the same as you were writ­ing an arti­cle. Most blog­gers start­ed either with an anec­dote, sto­ries, or a quote, the same in pub­lic speak­ing,

One of the lessons I’ve learned from toast­mas­ters was, it is always effec­tive to start with a sto­ry, an anec­dote, an infor­ma­tion or a quote that will lead to the top­ic or idea, always gets the atten­tion.

Have your audi­ence par­tic­i­pate, ask them provoca­tive ques­tions, give them a rea­son to care, make them curi­ous as if it is you will reveal a dis­con­nec­tion in someone’s world­view that they will feel the need to fill that knowl­edge gap that could only be fill by lis­ten­ing to you.

3. Build your idea with famil­iar con­cepts.

Build your idea, piece by piece out of con­cepts that your audi­ence already under­stands. Chris Ander­son sug­gest­ed that when build­ing the idea, the speak­er should use the pow­er of  lan­guage using the audi­ence lan­guage and NOT your lan­guage by start­ing where they are.

4. Make your idea worth shar­ing.

Ask your­self this ques­tion: “Who does this idea ben­e­fit?”.  If the ben­e­fi­cia­ry of the idea will be your orga­ni­za­tion only, then prob­a­bly it’s not a good idea worth to share. But if you think your idea can bright­en some­one else’s day or change their per­spec­tive for the bet­ter or inspire them to do some­thing dif­fer­ent­ly, then you can have already an idea for a tru­ly great talk that can be a gift to them and to all of us.

Learned some­thing new today? Share it with your friends as well who aspire to be a speak­er some­day.

Do you have some­thing to add? Feel free to add, I am excit­ed to hear from you!

How to Give a Successful Icebreaker Speech

ice breaker speech

And so, I’ve decid­ed to join toast­mas­ters after being inspired by sto­ries I’ve heard that strug­gle the same pain I have — which is speak­ing inef­fec­tive­ly in pub­lic.  At first, I have doubts because join­ing toast­mas­ters will be anoth­er addi­tion­al com­mit­ment and dis­ci­pline because you have to pre­pare your speech­es at least two weeks ahead of sched­ule (this works for me).

And last Thurs­day, I final­ly gave my ice­break­er speech. For me, I was so ner­vous that I felt my knee would fail me stand­ing in the front speak­ing about myself which at first, I am not com­fort­able with but in my mind, I need to over­come myself. But then I was glad that my peers said that I’ve done a good job break­ing my shy­ness and fear of pub­lic speak­ing and I was sur­prised that my speech turned out to be good.

Today, I would like to share what I’ve done to pre­pare and ace my speech project #1 which as they called “ice­break­er”

1. Sched­ule your first speech project.

Unfor­tu­nate­ly, I joined toast­mas­ters at first with a pur­pose of learn­ing pub­lic speak­ing skills and boost my con­fi­dence with­out a dead­line. Many peo­ple fall into the same trap. And so I decid­ed to vol­un­teer and sched­ule myself for the next meet­ing to give my first speech.

Set­ting a sched­ule for each speech project will def­i­nite­ly help you out to reach your goals and a def­i­nite amount of time. Start with an end in mind.

2. The top­ic is about your­self.

At first, I was hes­i­tant what top­ic should I give for the speech. Then I decid­ed to search for ice­break­er speech­es and watch them how they do it. But I real­ize, the goal of the first speech is to intro­duce myself to the club and to dis­cov­er my own voice and know what should I need fur­ther to improve.

Relax, if you will have plans to join toast­mas­ters in the future, the top­ic is just about your­self. It could be:

  • Per­tain­ing to some of your unfor­get­table expe­ri­ences.
  • Your first date.
  • Your wed­ding day.
  • Your fam­i­ly.
  • Your work.
  • Your com­pa­ny or peo­ple.

And the list goes on. What I gave in my first speech was some of the things that great­ly shaped for who I am today. I start­ed it with a pow­er­ful quote then end with a pow­er­ful con­clu­sion.

Be cre­ative if you wish to. I did my speech hav­ing a few print­ed illus­tra­tion in my hand then I showed to the audi­ence so I can gain their atten­tion and they would know where I am in my speech. It’s not required though but I just did it because I am a visu­al per­son and I think hav­ing it would help me empha­size the points I am shar­ing.

3. Last­ly, write down your speech and make time to prac­tice and pre­pare for it.

Noth­ing beats prepa­ra­tion. Prac­tice makes progress, not per­fec­tion. Some speak­ers write every­thing that was on their mind then eval­u­ate it then sum­ma­rize it into points that will help them remem­ber it.

What I did was, I think of a top­ic that I can share to my audi­ence then write some­thing about it. Then I mem­o­rized the first line and the last line, which have giv­en me an ace to my speech.

To give you exam­ple of an ice break­er speech, I am hap­py to share it with you:

The pur­pose of this speech is to intro­duce myself to you, but before I begin, I would like to start it with a quote from B.J Neblett:

We are the sum total of our expe­ri­ences. Those expe­ri­ences – be they pos­i­tive or neg­a­tive – make us the per­son we are, at any giv­en point in our lives. And, like a flow­ing riv­er, those same expe­ri­ences, and those yet to come, con­tin­ue to influ­ence and reshape the per­son we are, and the per­son we become. None of us are the same as we were yes­ter­day, nor will be tomor­row.”

I am Dhenn (Dhenn Mark Espir­i­tu) and

Like all of you, I am the sum total of my expe­ri­ences and tonight I would like to share some of those expe­ri­ences that great­ly shaped for who am I right now.

  1. First, I will start with my par­ents. My mom nev­er failed to remind us of the impor­tant things we need in life. I still remem­ber when I was young, when my mom was mad at us, she repeat­ed­ly remind­ing us that “what if tomor­row we die? Who will take care of your sib­lings? Who will pre­pare the meal for you? Who will clean the house? Who will clean the back­yard?”

And so as a young man who doesn’t ful­ly under­stand why we need to learn it, every night I pray to God, “Lord, make my par­ents live longer because I love them so much”.

My dad was not usu­al­ly at home because he needs to stay in the camp to ful­fill his duty as a sol­dier.

I grew up as an intro­vert, I don’t like being with many peo­ple as much as I can, I don’t care if I don’t have friends but it changed the time I messed up, almost gave up that one day I was just roam­ing around a mall near to our home­town, and entered a large room that was full of hap­py peo­ple, and that place re-shaped and change the course of my entire life.

  1. Sec­ond, church because I’m a Chris­t­ian. Remem­ber the room that was full of hap­py peo­ple? That was the church. I don’t like to sound like reli­gious or preachy about here. But the church has become my sec­ond home and my sec­ond fam­i­ly, because when the time I messed up, I almost gave up, that’s when God showed up. In church, I learned every­thing I need­ed to know about life, about my pur­pose, about my sig­nif­i­cance and my exis­tence. They teach me that the rela­tion­ship with God and peo­ple is all that mat­ters.

In church, I expe­ri­enced mis­sion trips that entire­ly changed my life, approach­ing locals from dif­fer­ent nations and build­ing rela­tion­ships with them for two weeks. It was tru­ly life chang­ing. I nev­er envi­sioned myself to becom­ing a mis­sion­ary per­haps because of fear but then after my mis­sion trip in Myan­mar last 2014, it was fol­lowed by anoth­er mis­sion trips in Thai­land in the year 2015 and Chi­na just this year.

What else has shaped who I am?

  1. Books! I used to hate books. Men­tion­ing the text­books we car­ried in our bags for years, they are sim­ply bor­ing. But my hatred for books doesn’t last for a long time. My men­tors in church taught me the impor­tance of read­ing books, a lot of books. I only start­ed read­ing books at the age of 22, since then I start­ed to have an insa­tiable thirst for knowl­edge and under­stand­ing. And now I con­sid­er myself as a book­worm because the smell of book for me is addict­ing and I love to col­lect books that I’ve read and dream­ing myself one day to have my own library at home.

Books have shaped my mind and change my per­spec­tive towards life. I’ve become to be more opti­mistic than pes­simistic.

  1. last­ly, is Hewlett-Packard Enter­prise, I’ve been work­ing with HPE for 3 and a half years already, first as a Lev­el 2 Sup­port and just this year in my new role as an Automa­tion Engi­neer. In the past, I’ve worked with two dif­fer­ent com­pa­nies both are great but in HPE, I did not only grow pro­fes­sion­al­ly but also per­son­al­ly. What I love about HPE was its cul­ture. The cul­ture of empow­er­ing peo­ple to achieve both their career and per­son­al goals. Plus HPE is like a cam­pus, employ­ees have the oppor­tu­ni­ty to join dif­fer­ent clubs and ini­tia­tives being offered.

In HPE I also had the oppor­tu­ni­ty to join the toast­mas­ters. I joined toast­mas­ters because my men­tor influ­enced me to join. She is an author, she told me that she was like me when she was just start­ed, intro­vert, and she shared how she cried in front of the audi­ence dur­ing her first speech. Because of that, I searched google about the club. Then a col­league told me that she is a mem­ber of toast­mas­ters, so I joined meet­ings not just once but thrice as a guest than final­ly signed up as a mem­ber. And I am look­ing for­ward to devel­op­ing my speak­ing and lead­er­ship skills in this club.

And that how I was shaped as a per­son, speak­ing in front of you.

Going back to my point ear­li­er, we are the sum total of our expe­ri­ences, be they pos­i­tive or neg­a­tive, they bring out the best or worst in us and make us the per­son who we are today and what we will be in the future.


Join­ing toast­mas­ters is fun. I am encour­ag­ing you to join one of the clubs to learn pub­lic speak­ing. You don’t need to be a pub­lic speak­er to join. I’ve known some peo­ple who were afraid of the crowd yet they make a bold step to over­com­ing their own fear of pub­lic speak­ing.